There's an old myth that goes something like this... "Oh don't pander to that child/pet/learner/dependent they will grow up spoiled, immature, a cry baby etc." This is old fashioned advice that couldn't be further from the truth. Being responsive and demonstrating nurturing behaviours associated with love and tenderness have now been clear in showing that the best way to protect a dependent/pet/child's emotional needs is to have an awareness of them as being valid.
This means that we don't need to withhold emotion, affection or acts of nurture to raise a "strong" individual. By having an awareness of a learner/child/dependent/pet's emotional wellbeing and demonstrating care towards them, we are able to raise individuals that don't live in an internal state of flux fighting the very feelings that make them a unique individual who's emotional experience is valid and deserves to be recognised. Long term this can be described as having a strong core, based on trust towards their caregivers, towards themselves and to those around them, having had nurturing behaviours modelled towards them since babyhood.
But If thats not enough a reason to start caring for your dependent's emotional experience and you're asking what "short term" fix may be gained from being responsive to smaller emotions, then you can expect overall smaller meltdowns, which don't last as long are less intense.
I've made a vlog post about how to enforce boundaries with respect to those around you who may not be on board with your caregiving style that can be found on this link INSTAGRAM link: untamed__remedy, enforcing boundaries is lifelong work and this is a helpful link
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